It takes a lifetime to change for the better. It is an ever ongoing prayer and effort. Together with such an ordeal is the sincere help, one could extend for those who are experiencing the same.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:3-5|NIV)
The Candle and Butterfly 